Scars be it emotional, physical,internal and mental they are all painful
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I believe that we all suffer from scars of one sort or the other. The worst is the ones you cannot see and may never receive treatment when needed. There are many types of scars, emotional, physical, internal, or mental and all equally as stressful.
Reasons for Emotional Scars
Emotional scars, often buried so deep and hidden inside a person that it is harder to give help and repair
- Many things can cause emotional scars. Someone who lives through a horrific experience will suffer from emotionally scarring.
- The loss of a loved one through traumatic circumstances can cause stress and emotionally scarring.
- Witnessing a violent scene
- Living in a violent marital relationship
- Family abuse and bullying
- Sexual abuse- can effect anyone at any age
- Verbal abuse- can cause serious emotional trauma to the young and insecure person
Reasons for Physical scars
Physical scars are more obvious therefore; it causes those scarred to suffer cruelty from stares and misplaced sympathy.
- Result from an injury or accident
- Surgical operation
- Burns from fire or radiation and chemo
- Abuse from family members or bullying
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Internal Scars
These may be the result from accidents, surgery, or born deformities.
- Internal surgery can create fibrous scar tissue. These internal scars may develop following surgery, causing significant pain.
Mental Scars
Outwardly, people look healed, but their lives will be shattered for years to come after witnessing horror shootings and criminal acts where people were seriously injured.
Reasons for mental Scars
- Sexual abuse- at any age
- Hidden bullying- this is harder to detect as the person keeps all to themselves.
- Stress and scars resulting from wars, cyclones, and floods. Things that others will never understand how is affects every individual.
Child Abuse
Abuse as a child can cover all of these and neglect, will add another dimension. Physical abuse of a child is any non-physical injury. If a parent or person caring for the child inflicts an intentional injury to a child, it is abuse. Any assault on a Childs body, by beating, choking, kicking, or scalding is physical abuse.
We can all Help in some Little Way
We all need to be aware of these varying emotions and forms of scars. Maybe we can help if only we stop for a few minutes each day and listen. I mean really listen to what our children, friends, and family are saying. Even the things they are not telling us, just bottling everything up inside them until they are ready to explode.
Everyone needs help at some time in our lives. So let us all stop and do those little things for the good of humanity.
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It is very easy to say "let it go". But unfortnately, it is not so easy to do. I want very much to let go of my scars and have tried to take my mind off my pain and anger. But it doesn't work, and you end up pretending things are "just fine" which makes me feel worse. I'm much more bitter and angry now than in the past, some of this has been from people demanding I get over myself, when I don't know how.
So I avoid people, since I can't be normal like others. Sad.
fbloo, if you have a problem talk to a counciller. Or even friends. You dont have to tell them your story just talk about things in general in the beginning until you know that you can trust that person.
Although maybe a counciler would be the best person to talk about your particular problem. Sorry I cant help you in this case.
But I can I think understand how you feel. Hope things work out ok for you.
I'd say i agree with you but i don't know if im going 2 heal from ma scars anytime soon..i jst turn 2 relive what happened 2 me as a child and it really hurts.I just cant seem 2 trust anyone.I am 19 years old now but everything that has happened 2 me 15 years ago is still so vivid as if it happened last night,it's even worse than losing ma mom 10 years ago....it's 2 bad there's no one i can really trust ma self to talk to..i guess imma wait for a miracle..
Timeinabible so very true, it sometime takes us to suffer to improve or build on the person that we are .thanks for stopping by
Eileen thank your for your post, I agree, everyone needs an outlet of some kind. I am 45 yrs. old and have experienced them all, often more than once. When I learned to forgive my offenders, I healed. Scars remain.....I wear them proudly, because of them, I am who I am today.
Mulder, I believe it helps to write your feelings down. It appears to be a way of admitting and accepting what has happened. Or thats what I believe anyway. The same as talking about things really helps.
Thanks for stopping by
my sexual abuse when I was a child has left many scars I'm afraid but scince writting on hub pages these scars are strarting to heal . Great hub
oberbreckling, yes we all carry scars of one sort or another, the difference is we all need to talk to someone about it I think. Its easy to say forget and forgive but not as easy to do.
And some scars are not as real as we think. I know I blamed myself for years about something that happened when I was a baby. I know that was silly but that is the nature of the beast I suppose. We have to learn how to carry on the best we can. Although it is not easy.
Hi Eileen for me its the physical abuse from my father my wife verbal abuse from her father Ive never really forgivin my father but I have had this tuff love all my life with him we are not talking ended are relationship 2 months ago the Iowa floods where i live brought us together again my wifes father has passed away 6 years ago and she never made up with him or him with her.I carry emotional scaring because Im a sucker I forgive but all take advantage of that but I still forgive scars go on for ever its the one thing you get to take with ya when you die ~cool~cya
Agree with you wholeheartedly. It must be hard. I know talking helps but did hear that writing it down is another way of expressing your innermost feelings. Also share this with loved ones too. So that they can help and understand what you are going through.
Hope all will come good in times. time is another good healer. Thanks for stopping by
Ellen,
I can only reiterate was has been said above, I have the physical, as well as the emotional traumas, damage and the emotional baggage that has to be carried because of that hurt.
I have found that it is not only through physical therapy, for cuts, breaks and burns,it is also the spiritual and mental therapy that will eventually release, or at least relieve, most of that pain and anguish.
I heard from a therapist at a drug rehab therapy session, that to write down those thoughts that cause the hurt, pain and the need for the refuge and escape, will help with the healing proccess.
A dogrel from my childhood,
"Sticks and Stones may break my bones,
but names will never hurt me."
Should be ammended to "but names are even sharper"
Constant walker. You are so right. It is hard to deal with this type of scarring. that is why I have written it to make others aware that it is a problem and we all need help from time to time.
We all need to talk about our problems. That is the way to open up and get on with life. I hope you lose the bitterness, when I feel down the best way is to find someone worse off than your self. Like a blind person or wheelchair bound person. That way we are more able to cope. And realise we are not so bad after all.
Keep your chin up and carry on the fight. Cheers Eileen
Good piece. I'd bet there are quite a few people with scarring of some kind. Mine are from past psychological and verbal abuse. I would have preferred physical injuries: Healing is easier and quicker. For years I ignored it, then tried to get closure, neither of those worked. Now I've learned that if I don't provide my own healing and closure and move on, it'll effect me for the rest of my life and leave me angry and bitter, and I just don't want to live that way.
PJScot, yes some people have the mental and physical toughness to cope better than others thats for sure. But it still hurts deep inside.
Karen thanks for stopping by
Cgull, yes agree with you there. Talking helps to heal all ailments no matter what they are. It doesnt fix them but it really helps. Its the ones you cant see that hurt us the most. Thanks
Jesus is the only One who ever could help my emotional scars. They are just too deep. I asked Him once to remove my heart and give to me His. With His heart in me He could forgive them who hurt me so I accept all that He accepts because we all have sinned against someone and we all need to be forgiven and are, by Him.
Mental scars are hardest festers for a long time. Glad you wrote this, we have to be really open to others, only love and listening well can cure them.
Very well done. Very important information to consider - thanks.
I agree with you Eileen. Some people manage their emotional scars better than others - I admire those people. In some respects physical scars are less difficult to handle - but I'm sure people who live with serious physical impediments would argue against that.
Yes Ithink so too. I wrote an article on this about 20 years ago and was told it stirred up emotions. I have hunted everywhere and could not find that piece.
So did this. That one was better because from memory I sort of wrote it feeling the problems. Todays one now that I look at it is sort of emphasising what these emotions are. Does that make sense. I thinkI am too close to it now.
Thanks for stopping by John
It is very true that we all carry around scars from previous experiences. For the most part we are mentally trying to change what happened or cope with it. Often we are reliving the past in a futile attempt to change the outcome of what happened. We can't. We need to learn to let go. The scars we carry around are holding us to the past. As long as we are emotionally attached to some past event, we have trouble fully living in the present.
It takes a lot of self examination to identify and let go of these past scars. But our lives will be much richer once we do.
An important topic for us all to think about.
Eileen Hughes Hub Author 6 months ago
Anonymous, I can understand how you feel, but talking to people or a councilor could help you.
Time will also help to heal. I would definitely not avoid people you need to get out and about and try to look forward and not back. Living in a shell will not help you but then again that is just my opinion (only). I am not a councilor. Hope things work out ok for you in time.